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Welcome to 2009!
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Happy New Year and welcome to this pre-Valentine's Day edition of The Pure Bed's Love Notes! Snuggle up with dear spouse and enjoy our spicy offerings and assorted intimate in-trickles. Contact us with your comments or topics you'd like to see covered in subsequent editions. We'd really like to hear from you. Please visit us at ThePureBed.com for your intimacy product needs!
In this edition:
Low Cost V-Day Play: Budget friendly ways to observe Valentine's Day.
My Lingerie and Me: Selecting lingerie for your body type.
Give Love a Chance: Resolve to be more sexually adventurous.
Make Making Love Priority: Just what the title implies.
Read these articles and more at The Pure Bed's Blog!
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Valentine's Day doesn't have to be a budget buster, come with diamonds or stress us out! Seriously, the day is about love and committed people being together and celebrating their love. We describe four low cost or no cost ideas for getting in some quality time on or around Valentine's Day. Be inspired, embellish our suggestions or come up with a creative observance of your own. Angela and I will...
Winter Picnic
Lay out a nice blanket in the living room or any room with a fireplace. Fill the room with tea light, votive, can, and/or pillar candles. Burn a CD of some of both of your favorite love songs and have that playing. The darker the room is the more effective the candles will be. Purchase real or synthetic rose petals and spread them about the room. Spray a little of your perfume or sprinkle a bit of his cologne into the room. You have now created a lovely ambiance for romance.
Place your meal (something simple but satisfying) on the blanket. Presentation is important. You might want to use your best serving dishes for this. Include finger foods such as diced/sliced passion fruit. You can suck each other’s fingers as you feed one another these items. Fill the room with laughter, recollection of fond memories, I love you’s, and other pleasant sounds…
When done eating and reminiscing, cuddle, kiss, and make love there. Use the sofa cushions for comfort, if need be.
A Notable Meal
This is a simple but highly effective idea. Have a meal at a favorite restaurant. Once you are seated and are talking, pass him a piece of paper. You will have written the following:
I love you.
While we are here, we will take turns writing what we like about our date tonight (today). The one rule is that we cannot talk about this note during dinner. Pass it back to me when you are done.
<You insert your first thing you like about the date to give him an idea of how it’s done.>
Write something like ‘You make me laugh.’ or ‘I liked feeling your hands on my back when we walked in…’ Once the dinner is done, tuck the note into your purse and save it as a keepsake of your special night with your special guy.
Spice it up. Go to dinner commando (No underwear…either of you)!
A Valentine’s Spa Treatment
Again, fill the bathroom and the bedroom with candles, rose petals and music (see Winter Picnic). Bathe and massage each other. Determine who will get ‘the treatment’ first.
The receiving spouse will get into a bubble bath drawn by the giver. As he/she soaks, the other will kneel by the tub side. (Be comfortable. Use a pillow for your knees.) there should be fresh cut fruit and a refreshing drink for the receiver to enjoy while being washed by the giver. After toweling off, a fresh bubble bath is drawn and the receiver becomes the giver and should only be wearing a robe (nothing underneath).
Once both have been fully bathed, both move to the bedroom (or another appropriate room) where full body massages are exchanged. Each pays particular attention to the other’s erogenous zones. Use fragrant aphrodisiac oils, lotions and or cremes. Agree as to whether massages will end with ‘full release’ (orgasm) or lead into lovemaking or both!
Silly Putt-ee
Recapture your youthfulness. Go putt-putt golfing together. Take your time and enjoy just being together and acting silly. Or, go to a local arcade or amusement park. The idea is to create a carefree moment and be doting lovers and passionate friends!
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My Lingerie and Me
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In anticipation for the popular lingerie purchases during Valentine's season, here are a few steps to help you buy for your body type.
Step 1: Take a good look at yourself. Don't be overly harsh or critical. Simply get acquainted with the shape of your body. Use a full length mirror, if possible, to get a view from all angles. Honestly assess your assets and any areas you consider trouble spots.
Step 2: Look for flattering colors. This is simple, yet effective. You don't want to look washed out. You can also use color to suit your figure. If you are top or bottom heavy, then go for a two-toned look. Wear darker hues on the larger part of you and lighter hues on the smaller part of you. Your proportions will look more even.
Step 3: Choose appropriate fabrics. When you buy lingerie for your body type, remember that all fabrics are not created equal. Flimsy fabrics flatter smaller frames while sturdy or heavier fabrics work better for larger frames.
Step 4: Pay attention to structure. Lingerie with more seaming will hold you in and help camouflage any bulges. Think bustier and corset.
Step 5: Find the right style. Lingerie with an empire waist is good for those with thicker middles. Boy shorts can flatter a behind of any shape or size. Play around with it.
Step 6: Be persistent. Just remember that the right lingerie for your body type does exist. From designers like Vera Wang to popular retailers like Victoria's Secret and Lane Bryant's Cacique line, there's fabulous lingerie for everyone. Keep trying until you find what works.
Lastly, be comfortable. Discomfort will distract from the purpose of the garment...to promote your sexiness and highlight your assets!
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Give Love a Chance
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In addition to the other resolutions and commitment to change you've made for 2009, how about committing to being a bit more sexually adventurous this year. To the extent you've wanted to try some new things in the bedroom (kitchen, living room, garage, barn), resolve to make it happen.
We know you have concerns or fears. They can be allayed or resolved. Have a conversation with your spouse about trying new things. Explain that you are reluctant because of a fear of judgement or a feeling of awkwardness. Give them a chance to support your efforts and to be sensitive to your concerns. Be specific, "I'm worried you might laugh at me or look at me weird!"
Your spouse loves you and will do the right thing. Have fun and they will too!
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TPB Loves To Hear From You!
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Contact us with questions, comments or topics you'd like to see covered in subsequent editions. We'd really like to hear from you. Please visit us at ThePureBed.com as your married couples intimacy store!
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Make Making Love Priority
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How do you make making love a priority? [Yes, I really like typing that phrase.]
1. Just do it. Pull yourself away from the problems and demands that rob you of your time and energy. Clearly, you can't do that everyday. But you should do it today. Just do it. Shh! Stop arguing. Find your spouse and get busy! Now! We'll wait...
2. How was it? Never mind. Share affection with one another. Make and take opportunities to share hugs, kisses and general face time. Tell your spouse that you love them, what you love about them and compliment them. For goodness sake...touch each other. Touching matters and is a powerful communication of trust, desire and commitment. Touch.
3. I'm not saying you are not a great lover. In fact. you may be very satisfying to your husband or wife...but there may also be room for improvement. Don't go your whole life using the same warm up routine. Our bodies change. Our minds change. It stands to reason, our sexual response systems may change how they react to certain stimuli. Ask each other what works, what is desireable, what is needed. Ask and listen to the answer. Then...do it. Then...ask whether you got it right. Then...ask what else. Get it? Got it. Gone.
4. Be tender with one another. Understand that tenderness is not foreplay, necessarily. There are time when you are just sweet for sweetness sake (fella!). Appreciate the differences between sexual affection and intimate connection. Sexual affection is about bodies colliding. Intimate connection is about hearts and minds intertwining.
Express. Caress. Be blessed.
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Husbands!
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Are you a married man? Would you like to hear and share a distinctively male perspective on marriage and sex?
Join Husbands.thepurebed.com. Whether issues of faith, performance or dysfunction, we're building a community of husbands who want to pursue excellence in their sex life!
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Good Vibrations
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Fukuoku 9000 Massager Finger. The Original World's Smallest Massager that "fits on your finger and goes anywhere your fingers can go." Only your imagination can go more places than FUKUOKU 9000!!!
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Bed of Roses
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Bed of Roses
Fragrant, sets an incredibly romantic tone for your intimate tryst! The reusable synthetic petals are fragrant and come in a storage pouch for storage.
For your very special moments, spread these over the bed or around the tub to set a right mood and to indicate what kind of night it will be!
Standard. Kit includes: 100 scented silk rose petals, four tea lights and a special invitation card.
Deluxe Ed. Kit includes(picture): Two Hundred Silk Rose Petals, Massage Oil (2oz), Hand Held Massager, Bubble Bath (2oz), Tealights, and an invitation card. Grouping comes in a black satin bag.
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Sex Talk
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Start slow. Don’t feel as though you have to rush right into elaborate verbal gymnastics. A great way to start with sexy talk is to describe out loud what is happening during sex. Things like "I love the way your hand feels on my…." Or "Your …feels so good on/in my…" Describe what’s happening and how it feels to you. You can also experiment by telling your partner something you’re going to do to them, or something you want them to do to you.
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Thank You
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We know you have choices. Thank you for choosing The Pure Bed. Our mission is to provide products and resources to assist you in the enhancement of your marriage through a strengthened intimate connection. Send us your recommendations for products, articles, or other resource needs that may assist you.
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TPB's Erotic Eatery Menu
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TPB'sErotic Eatery Menu
This e-booklet is the latest entry in our Married Couples Sex Series. The booklet is setup like a food menu...only the entries are intimate activities for husbands and wives to enjoy.
The menu has 5 categories: Drinks, Appetizers, Salads, Entrees, and Desserts. Some entry examples are:
(from Drinks) Flavored Smoothie
Husband applies a tasty food item (chocolate, fruit wedges, whipped cream, etc.) to wife?s inner thighs. He licks and sucks the inner thighs slowly and erotically, building wife's arousal. Do not touch the genitals.
(from Appetizers) Taco Salad
Use a toy (egg, bullet, or vibe) on wife?s clitoris while orally pleasuring her vagina.
Pudding
Share a heartfelt "I love you". Share 3 things you appreciate about one another.
From the wildest activity to the mildest activity, TPB's Erotic Eatery Menu will enliven your erotic senses and inpsire your own creativity. The menu comes with Guest Checks just like in restaurants...so you can take your spouse's 'order'! Just print them and cut along the dotted line. Bon appetit!
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Lover's Super Strap
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The Lover's Super Strap kit includes 4- 36" tethers with plushy faux fur lined cuffs and a fur lined pleasure mask, and red nylon straps with black faux fur.
Use any one or combination of these items to promote playful teasing and experience the enhancement of anticipation and sexual arousal.
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Sheer Boxers for Men
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Next To Nothing are a sexy sheer boxer for dear husband. Husbands can 'dress' sexy too!
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Exotic Lovers' Special
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This Exotic Lovers' Special includes:
Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm(Stimulating)
This specially formulated gel imparts a tingling and refreshing sensation. To Use: Apply a small portion to all your desired pleasure point and enjoy a stimulating and lickable treat. Use more as desired.
Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm(Desensitizing)
This long-time best seller imparts a tingling and slightly numbing sensation to prolong sensual experiences with a tantalizing scent of fresh mint.
Sensual Lubricant - Love Liquid
Kama Sutra luxurious lubricants are designed to provide unlimited pleasure. Silky and never sticky, each lubricant is formulated to provide the utmost in comfort and sustainability. Dermatologist Tested and Latex Safe.
Signature Collection Tureen Jar Candle
In it's clear glass 6.75 oz. jar, the Tureen Jar Candle is a quality choice with 8 available exotic and exquisite fragrances. Mixing and matching beautifully presented candles on fireplaces, tabletops, shelves, and at bedsides is a great way to create a right environment for romance and lovemaking.
Canoodling
What you do after the small talk. Canoodling is an intimate and hot card game for lovers. By definition Ca-noo-dle is "to converse, kiss, cuddle and touch somebody in a romantic or sexual way." This game begins there but it's so much more than that!
Pearl Ring with Tassle
Add a little flare to the ordinary penis ring. Give your wife a little tickle while you prolong your lovemaking session
Circuit Vibrations
Move into the new millenium with this kit of vibrating ecstasy! A husband can use the vibe to create a wet experience for his wife. Add the bullet for clitoral stimulation and she will gush with orgasmic pleasure!
Lovers' Spa Kit
Contains: 2 oz. Tropical Scented Bubble Bath, Coconut Water Scoop, Sealike Sponge, Tealights & Special Invitation Card. Escape to Paradise Together.
Soft Moves Massage Cream
With all natural ingredients enhanced with honey and vitamin E, this silky smooth cream softens the movements between two bodies, bringing sexual energy to its peak. Apply it to your skin after a sensual shower or bath and improve the 'glide' of your two bodies in motion.
Married Couple's Sex Series: Oral Sex Tips
An e-book written by us to help married couples enhance oral sex skills, increase pleasure, and promote confidence as a lover. A 13 page primer.
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