The Married Couples Intimacy Store
THE PURE BED
THE PURE BED
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Fun Sex is Good Sex
A challenge many loving married couples encounter is that of expressing their desire for one another in a manner that promotes passionate physical intimacy. Certainly, years of marriage and caring for children produces a familiarity that dulls the senses couples once had toward each other. While we acknowledge there are many aspects of intimacy, emotion, mental, and spiritual, we’d like to spend a little time dealing with the physical aspect.
Sex shouldn’t feel like work. Fun sex is good sex. Exploration, humor, experimentation, and communication are essential aspects of a healthy and vibrant sex life. What follows is not about technique but a summary on how sex can be fun…not work. We encourage you to review this page with your spouse.
Relax
Sex is not a race. Take your time. Foreplay is essential to a married couple's ability to routinely having an experience that results in orgasm. Typically, it is best to begin with slow thrusting movements once sexual intercourse begins. Heightened arousal will result in spontaneous quickening of thrusts. Of course, there are times when both spouses are sufficiently aroused and a ‘quickie’ becomes the ‘order of the day’. This is fine. Just know that you shouldn’t feel the pressure of having to ‘just get on with it’. Make sure that pleasure is in the plan.
Rest
Be comfortable with your sexuality. Don't take it all so seriously. Neither spouse should feel as though there is pressure to perform. The gift of sex to the marriage bed is one of selflessness. This is to say, your focus is not on the act itself but the person with whom you are intimate. It’s okay to talk during sex, laugh during sex, and even to take a break from thrusting. Fool around a little bit. Touch each other. Explore one another’s body. You will find that, in certain instances, arousal is heightened during these times. Intimacy is communicated through more than just the mechanical act of intercourse.
Relate
Your spouse probably likes indications that you are receiving pleasure. Moan, sigh, or simply tell them how much you are enjoying yourself. Be specific. Tell them exactly what you like about what you both are doing. Talk to your partner about the kinds of things that most please you and ask them what most pleases them. Discuss this before intercourse, ensure you thoroughly understand and can accommodate. You will be a better lover.
A challenge many loving married couples encounter is that of expressing their desire for one another in a manner that promotes passionate physical intimacy. Certainly, years of marriage and caring for children produces a familiarity that dulls the senses couples once had toward each other. While we acknowledge there are many aspects of intimacy, emotion, mental, and spiritual, we’d like to spend a little time dealing with the physical aspect.
Sex shouldn’t feel like work. Fun sex is good sex. Exploration, humor, experimentation, and communication are essential aspects of a healthy and vibrant sex life. What follows is not about technique but a summary on how sex can be fun…not work. We encourage you to review this page with your spouse.
Relax
Sex is not a race. Take your time. Foreplay is essential to a married couple's ability to routinely having an experience that results in orgasm. Typically, it is best to begin with slow thrusting movements once sexual intercourse begins. Heightened arousal will result in spontaneous quickening of thrusts. Of course, there are times when both spouses are sufficiently aroused and a ‘quickie’ becomes the ‘order of the day’. This is fine. Just know that you shouldn’t feel the pressure of having to ‘just get on with it’. Make sure that pleasure is in the plan.
Rest
Be comfortable with your sexuality. Don't take it all so seriously. Neither spouse should feel as though there is pressure to perform. The gift of sex to the marriage bed is one of selflessness. This is to say, your focus is not on the act itself but the person with whom you are intimate. It’s okay to talk during sex, laugh during sex, and even to take a break from thrusting. Fool around a little bit. Touch each other. Explore one another’s body. You will find that, in certain instances, arousal is heightened during these times. Intimacy is communicated through more than just the mechanical act of intercourse.
Relate
Your spouse probably likes indications that you are receiving pleasure. Moan, sigh, or simply tell them how much you are enjoying yourself. Be specific. Tell them exactly what you like about what you both are doing. Talk to your partner about the kinds of things that most please you and ask them what most pleases them. Discuss this before intercourse, ensure you thoroughly understand and can accommodate. You will be a better lover.
Communicating Boundaries
Husbands and wives must agree on the rules and boundaries of their sexual activity. It is destructive to ‘guilt’ or to coerce your spouse into sexual activities to which they are opposed or that cause them discomfort. However, sex is best when each spouse is selfless. Each lover must proactively seek to please the other.
We believe, in no uncertain terms, that viewing pornography is destructive to healthy relationships. It is addictive and creates unrealistic images of what sexual intimacy should be. These images are opposite of what sexual intimacy was divinely designed to accomplish. Rather than being selfless and promoting intimacy between two individuals, pornography draws the mind and heart of spouses from one another into a fantasy world of imaginary characters.
If you or your spouse are addicted to pornography, we recommend you visit www.porn-free.org. Get help.
Husbands and wives must agree on the rules and boundaries of their sexual activity. It is destructive to ‘guilt’ or to coerce your spouse into sexual activities to which they are opposed or that cause them discomfort. However, sex is best when each spouse is selfless. Each lover must proactively seek to please the other.
We believe, in no uncertain terms, that viewing pornography is destructive to healthy relationships. It is addictive and creates unrealistic images of what sexual intimacy should be. These images are opposite of what sexual intimacy was divinely designed to accomplish. Rather than being selfless and promoting intimacy between two individuals, pornography draws the mind and heart of spouses from one another into a fantasy world of imaginary characters.
If you or your spouse are addicted to pornography, we recommend you visit www.porn-free.org. Get help.
Touch Me Here
Giving your spouse a massage, stroking their erogenous zones, or simply caressing them may have an arousing effect on their own. However, when done during sexual intercourse, the effects of these acts can become more physically significant.
Consider stroking your spouse's genitals during intercourse to provide more stimulation. He can gently stroke her clitoris or she might hold the base of his penis. Use your fingers or a device. A well placed vibrator between you during intercourse can provide just the right additional stimulation to bring you to orgasm. You might also try giving your wife a back massage while penetrating her from behind. Likewise, the wife, on top, may massage her husbands chest and abdomen while he penetrates her.
Using a feather, you might dust edible powder over your partner's body. Use long sweeping strokes along the inner thighs and other erogenous zones, gently brushing the genitals occasionally. Having applied the dust over the trunk of their body, legs and arms, lick your partner in special places to increase their arousal...and your own.
More fulfilling sexual intimacy does not focus exclusively on thrusting flesh while abandoning the rest of the body. There is nothing more intimate than the loving...and probing human touch.
Remember, simple material sensations can be props to arouse both you and your spouse during intimacy. Try using velvet, satin, silk, fur, feathers, leather and similar materials to find what works best for you.
Giving your spouse a massage, stroking their erogenous zones, or simply caressing them may have an arousing effect on their own. However, when done during sexual intercourse, the effects of these acts can become more physically significant.
Consider stroking your spouse's genitals during intercourse to provide more stimulation. He can gently stroke her clitoris or she might hold the base of his penis. Use your fingers or a device. A well placed vibrator between you during intercourse can provide just the right additional stimulation to bring you to orgasm. You might also try giving your wife a back massage while penetrating her from behind. Likewise, the wife, on top, may massage her husbands chest and abdomen while he penetrates her.
Using a feather, you might dust edible powder over your partner's body. Use long sweeping strokes along the inner thighs and other erogenous zones, gently brushing the genitals occasionally. Having applied the dust over the trunk of their body, legs and arms, lick your partner in special places to increase their arousal...and your own.
More fulfilling sexual intimacy does not focus exclusively on thrusting flesh while abandoning the rest of the body. There is nothing more intimate than the loving...and probing human touch.
Remember, simple material sensations can be props to arouse both you and your spouse during intimacy. Try using velvet, satin, silk, fur, feathers, leather and similar materials to find what works best for you.