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A Guide to Intimacy After Sex

Origin of French Kissing
Most people incorrectly assume the term “French kiss” originated in France. Actually, the term entered the English language in 1923 as a slur on the French culture (which was then deemed infatuated with sexual matters). In the French language, there is no such thing as a “French kiss” – the French prefer to call it a “tongue kiss” or “soul kissing.”

Does size matter?
No...but the average adult male's erect penis measures about 6 inches.

Seventy percent of women would rather have chocolate than sex. (Poll taken in a 1995 popular women’s magazine). 

Seventy percent of women would rather have chocolate than sex. (Poll taken in a 1995 popular women’s magazine).

Sex Trivia

  • The left testicle usually hangs lower than the right for right-handed men. The opposite is true for lefties.
  • The male fetus is capable of attaining an erection during the last trimester.
  • Seventy percent of women would rather have chocolate than sex. (Poll taken in a 1995 popular women’s magazine).
  • The same chemical responsible for the ecstatic highs of love and sexual attraction, phenylethylamine, is also found in chocolate. (There’s the answer now).
  • Humans, fish and porpoises share a common sexual practice -- fellatio

    And now you know...probably wish you didn't!

 

Certainly the best moments of intimacy are the moments after orgasm, but these are often destroyed by an insensitive partner running for the bathroom or merely rolling over and going to sleep.

Here we will show you what to do after sex is finished, and it’s guaranteed to bring you and your partner closer together.

Some Physical Facts about After Sex
Guys should learn that their own orgasm is not the same as a woman’s, and hers doesn’t mean sex is finished. She can continue, and often wants to. The man is often unable or unwilling to understand this simple fact.

Secondly, both bodies have been working at an increased heart and respiratory rate, and there is a real need to reduce those slowly and gradually, in a soft programmed way. This is not a car where you just stop and turn off the engine. Even if it was, most cars now leave their ventilating fans on when the engine is switched off to cool the engine slowly.

There is a mental process also at work, and it does not stop with the orgasm. If your actions were just pure sex, of the animal nature, this article is not for you.

So, here follows the 4 simple steps to a graceful end to a highly personal and intimate act.

Step 1 – Don’t Just STOP

If one partner has climaxed and the other hasn’t (assuming here it’s the man), do not just stop. Keep stroking your partner, some small gentile massage, and even some fondling of erogenous areas. Use some small conversation to express your feelings and enjoyment.

A good exercise here is to continue with some mutual masturbation. The woman may express a desire to continue, and if the man cannot attain an erection, he can still practice oral sex with some spectacular results. The point here is not to just stop.

Step 2 – Getting Closer

As your heartbeats and breathing come down to normal, this is the best time to embrace each other, for a few moments. This is highly comforting and will tend to bring the couple even closer than the acts of sex did a few minutes before.

These embraces are whole body embraces with arms around each other and legs entwined

Step 3 – Relaxing

Again a comforting exercise, simply relax with your partner, lying in bed together side by side. Some simple conversation is ok, but even better is listening to some quiet and relaxing music.

During this step, one’s breathing has returned to normal and heartbeat (and blood pressure) have dropped. A feeling of euphoria can be felt, as orgasm often release one’s bodily endorphins (natural hormones that give one a feeling of bliss). Sleep can often proceed from this step.

Step 4 – Eye Gazing

In this step, just gaze into the eyes of your partner. See and feel their peace and contentment, and let them feel yours. You can let your mind wander and, with some moments of eye gazing, the come-down period after sex is over.

This whole 4 step procedure should take about 30 minutes, some men are ready to resume sex at this time.

If so, the 4 steps will have prepared you for an enhanced new sexual experience. If not, you have ended your session gracefully and can look forward to the next one

After Sex - A Guide To Intimacy After Sex by SACHA TARKOVSKY